‘If anal turns you on, you are not alone’: Gwyneth Paltrow publishes a VERY intimate guide to the sex act on Goop, insisting it is ‘practically standard in the modern bedroom repertoire’
- Th 44-year-old mother-of-two published The Sex Issue on her website today
- A whole article is devoted to anal sex and consults The Guide to Getting it On! author Paul Joannides, Psy.D.
- Gwyneth writes that the media makes it seem like everyone is having anal sex, but less than half of heterosexual people have tried it
- Joannides offers tips for doing it comfortably, warns of the risks, and speaks to where he thought the current obsession came from
Gwyneth Paltrow is not shy about talking about sex. On her website, the Goop founder has dishes on swingers’ parties, preferred sex toys, lube, and S&M.
In the latest issue of her newsletter — The Sex Issue — the 44-year-old tackles orgasms, more sexy toys, casual sex, and porn.
She also includes a whole article about anal sex, in which she consults an expert to compile a comprehensive guide to the taboo sexual act.
Breaking through the taboo: Gwyneth Paltrow published Goop’s Sex Issue today, which includes an article about anal sex
The dirty: The article includes tips for making the act comfortable, like relaxing sphincter muscles
‘First it was shocking, then it was having a cultural moment, now it’s practically standard in the modern bedroom repertoire — or so a quick scan of any media, from porn to HBO, will tell you,’ the mother-of-two begins her piece. ‘But the reality about anal is not, actually, that everyone’s doing it.’
Though it may not be quite as ubiquitous as the media makes it seem — she cites a CDC report stating that 30 to 40 per cent of heterosexual men and women have tried it — it certainly is becoming less taboo.
‘If anal turns you on, you are definitely not alone,’ she goes on. ‘But its prevalence doesn’t change the fact that it’s the riskiest sexual behavior in terms of HIV and other STDs.’
Speaking to research psychoanalyst and The Guide to Getting it On! author Paul Joannides, Psy.D., she offers up answers to some of the most common questions about the deed.
Honest: Though she opens a frank discussion, the 44-year-old doesn’t speak about her personal experience (pictured with boyfriend Brad Falchuk)
Joannides attitudes the rise in discussion of anal sex to the porn industry moving online.
‘I’d say that by 2005, porn had totally blurred the distinction between a woman’s anus and vagina,’ he said, attributing it to a need for shock value.
While porn brought anal sex more out into the open for heterosexuals, he added, it doesn’t really accurately depict what the act is like. For one thing, women who want to be entered that way have to ‘teach their sphincter muscles to relax’ first.
‘The anus isn’t designed to have a penis thrust up it; nature did not spec it to handle incoming, as she did with the vagina,’ he explained. Lube is also necessary.
Condoms are also often not present in porn, but are even more likely to be needed to prevent STDs when practicing anal — Johannides says women are 17 times more likely to get HIV from anal.
No secrets: Gwyneth (pictured with ex Chris Martin in 2014) is often open about her sex life
There are other risks, too: pain, fecal matter can enter the man’s urethra, and generally making a mess.
‘During anal intercourse you’re basically putting a plunger up someone’s butt. Accidents are likely to happen at one time or another,’ he said.
Finally, Johannides offered some tips for making the experience enjoyable. First, he said, it is necessary that both partners want to participate, and neither is being pressured. Second, it’s necessary to find the right angle, so the penis doesn’t hit the rectal wall.
Third, he warns against having anal sex while drunk or stoned, or using numbing lube, all of which can dull pain.
‘Pain is an important indicator that damage can occur if you don’t make the necessary adjustments, including stopping,’ he explained.
Comprehensive: The new issue also includes articles on porn and orgasms, as well as a shopping guide
If anal sex isn’t enjoyable but the parties are still interested in the region, he suggests using a gloved and lubed finger instead.
In addition to the anal sex guide, the new issue also includes a round-up of sex toys, including a few tried and true favorites that have turned up on Goop gift guides in the past.
There are costumes and lingerie, an intro bondage set, rope and handcuffs, games, vibrators, and even apps.
She also links to a rentable dungeon in Los Angeles (which seems surprisingly well-lit), as well as a $1,800 photography book full of sexy photos.